From ghosting to gushing, how to ask your crush out this Valentine’s Day without embarrassing yourself

For all the lovebirds and hopeless romantics, it's that time of the year again—Valentine’s Day is creeping up, and you’re still stuck in Should I? Shouldn’t I? mode. Asking your crush out can feel like defusing a bomb—one wrong move, and BOOM, you’re the main character in a tragic rom-com. But don’t worry, bestie, we’ve got the ultimate game plan to help you go from awkward over-thinker to certified charmer.

1. Read the room (or their Instagram stories)

Before you go full Shakespeare with a love letter, do some detective work. Have they been posting heartbreak memes or thirst traps? If it’s the former, maybe this isn’t your moment. If it’s the latter…proceed with caution but confidence.

2. DMs over desperation

Let’s be real—texting is the safest way to test the waters. Hit them up with a smooth "What’s your V-Day plan?" and gauge their response. If they reply with "Nothing much," congrats, soldier, you’re in the game. If they hit you with "Haha, just chilling with my cat," abort the mission or pivot into a ‘Galentine’s Day’ joke.

3. The power of ‘casual’ plans

Nobody likes pressure, and "Will you be my Valentine?" might sound like a proposal. Instead, keep it chill. Suggest a movie, a coffee date, or even a meme-sharing session over Zoom. "Hey, I heard this new place has the best fries. Wanna be my fries-review buddy this week?"—see, smooth AND food-related.

4. Grand gestures? Only if you’re THAT confident

If you’re planning a ‘10 Things I Hate About You’ style serenade, make sure your crush actually enjoys attention. A viral-worthy proposal is great if they’re into it, but if they’re the "don’t even look at me on my birthday" type, keep it lowkey.

5. Handle rejection like a pro

If they say no, it’s NOT the end of your love life. Channel the heartbreak into gym sessions, a glow-up, or dramatic Twitter posts. And remember: every "no" brings you closer to your ultimate "YES."

So, get ready to shoot your shot, go forth, and may Cupid be in your favour.