My best friend is all set to marry her long-time boyfriend of seven years in October this year.?
Two days ago, a mutual acquaintance who knows my best friend's fiance, told me how he has been cheating on my best friend on and off for years with someone he went to university with.?
I know that if I reveal this information to her, the wedding will be called off.?She literally worships the guy, rather, she's completely devoted to him. How will she heal her broken heart??
At 28 will she have the emotional strength to move on and love another person? Or do I ignore all of these concerns and just go tell her??
And since I couldn't go to my best friend for advice because this is literally about her life, I did the next best thing: Seek advice from the Internet. And trust me not one article, opinion piece or a blog post could give me what I was searching for.?
So I decided to write down all the advice I got from different people, articles and just grown-ups so that if you ever find yourself in the same situation, we and the internet wouldn't let you down. So let's dive in.?
The first thing I thought about was whatever goes down in their relationship is none of my business. And it wouldn't affect my friend because what you don't know, can't hurt you, right? Yet, the betrayal of my best friend is certainly my business. She would want me to tell her and if the situation was reversed, I would want her to tell me too.?
The second thought that held me back was that somehow the blame for her relationship's failure and her marriage falling apart would land on me. We expect people to act with maturity even the ones closest to us. But in the most fragile situations, we tend to lose our rational thought and act impulsively. Her boyfriend and his family would blame me for destroying the couple's life. And if he still manages to fool her and convince her, I would be out of my best friend's life.?
She needs to know this fact about her relationship and her life. She deserves someone who loves her back with the same intensity that she loves?him. She deserves the perfect fairytale wedding where she's enjoying every second and not second-guessing herself constantly about marrying a cheat.?
And, lastly, what if this news isn't reliable and he's innocent? I would be ruining her life for nothing.
The deal is I owe it to my best friend to tell her this piece of information. Even if it's a baseless rumour, she needs to know because that's my duty as her best friend.?
How she responds to the betrayal is entirely upon her. And why she needs to know this is because a happy life lived on a lie is worse than an unhappy life filled with the truth.?
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