7 important things to remember before you move in with your favourite person
So you have been in a relationship for long enough to take the next step forward? Many Indian couples are not taking marriage as their next step in a relationship and prefer moving in first. Believe me, that's a significant step too.?When a couple decided to move in, they consider a lot of factors but love and trust is the utmost important things for them.?
Before you decide to take the big plunge, do consider these 6 things.
1. Motive behind moving in?
If the two of you have been dating for a while, and want to start staying in together, then ask yourself the motive behind this decision. Is it to know more about the other person, is it sheer love that you want them around you 24/7, or is this a test before you consider marriage. Reason the motive in your head and discuss with your partner. It may look like it's a great decision, but there could be chances that it can sour things a little too soon in relationship. And we are sure you don't want that right at the start of your live-in relationship.
2. There will be chatter around this live-in relationship?
If the motive is clear, then be prepared to convince your family and friends around that. There will be many people with many questions. If you are able to answer that with utmost ease, clearly you are in the right headspace. But if at point, you are unsure, we suggest you take it slow and re-think your decision again.
3. Your expectations from this live in
How is this relationship going to conclude? In a marriage or this is interim? Is it being done because it can just give you ample time to spend with your partner or there's more you want from this live in. Discuss your feelings and future goals with your partner. It's important for both of you to be on the same page.
4. How to make up after a conflict
It's also important to note that the conflict, fights and arguments may increase and you need to find a way to resolve. Set some ground rules, like no sleeping without fixing the fight, make up in less than 24 hours, talk it out. Since the decision to move in together is only of you both, the make up also depends on the two of you. The more you prolong, the more you will regret your decision to move-in. Don't let those thoughts step in.
5. Divide duties?
Duties, boundaries, space needs to be spoken about. Do not feel you are baby-sitting for your partner. Let the duties be conveyed clearly even if it is as small as closing lights, doors and locks before crashing and groceries.
6 Patience is key, my friend
It's a relationship that both parties want should survive and thrive. So try and let go of the fights, don't hold onto grudges, and learn to fix things in order to keep moving on and to have a happier mental health.
7. Both need to have access to keys and docs
Ensure you both have access to important documents and information, such as healthcare directives, house keys, rent agreement, house bills and emergency contacts.?
You will be able to smoothly navigate the transition and strengthen your relationship as you build a shared life under one roof.?
