People are much more aware when it comes to?dating?nowadays. Thanks to trends of red flags and green flags, people are much more confident about who they want and what they don't want from a potential partner.?
However, wouldn't it be great if you could learn about the toxic traits in a potential partner beforehand so that you don't get too invested? We have seen through movies like Kabir Singh and Animal how toxic masculinity is a complete no-no. So, Bumble's Relationship Expert, Ruchi Ruuh, shares tips on how to identify toxic traits in potential partners:
They¡¯re dismissive and quick to disregard your thoughts, emotions, or opinions without engaging in discussion or consideration. They don't try to learn about you and your point.?
They follow and expect you to adhere to strict, outdated gender roles. Look out for remarks like 'Good women don't act like that' or ¡®That¡¯s not a man¡¯s job¡¯ if you¡¯re with someone. Any kind of communication that is offensive to you¡ªor in general¡ªis an immediate big red flag.?
Notice if they¡¯re consistently avoiding vulnerability or if there is no show of emotion. Some people do have difficulty expressing themselves emotionally, but seeing emotions as a weakness is a sign of toxic masculinity.?
Pay attention to how they handle your personal boundaries. Especially if they consistently push them without consideration, like asking you to do things despite your discomfort, know that it¡¯s a red flag. Remember that boundaries, both physical and emotional, are important.?
They make jokes that objectify or demean others. This behaviour goes unnoticed most times, as they would ask you to be less sensitive or 'lighten up'. This could get worse when done the same way for you.?
What constitutes a red flag differs from person to person, but you¡¯ll most likely know it when you see it, or at least get a weird feeling. If something starts to feel off, pay close attention. It might be difficult to understand, but pay attention to whether it¡¯s just a one-off toxic trait or a pattern.
So, make sure to be aware before it gets too late.?