'Benching' Emerges As The Most Detested Dating Trend Of 2023 - All You Need To Know
If you're in the dating game, you've probably heard of all the jargon, from being 'ghosted' to being 'zombied,' even 'breadcrumbed.' But have you ever heard of being 'benched?'
As if the dating world wasn't difficult enough, there appears to be a complete language associated with it that you must learn if you want to grasp everything.Obviously, most of us have heard of 'ghosting' and 'silent resigning' from either the dating or working worlds.
Getting 'zombied' is similar to ghosting, but in some ways worse.Benching, on the other hand, is a little different, albeit it's still a really bad way to treat someone.?
Ghosting is obviously when you abruptly quit talking to someone or begin ignoring them - the result is essentially the same - without informing them.You essentially become a ghost.
What is benching?
Benching is a little different in that it appears to imply that, while you still like this person enough to spend time with them when it suits you, you aren't eager to start a relationship with them if somebody better or more attractive is available.?
Consider the world of professional sports, for example.In football, you might have a first team that you call on during the season and rely on to deliver the majority of the goals, the strength of the defence, and generally your go-to people.However, in case of injury or bad form, you have substitutes to fall back on if something happens to one of the top options.?
Where do the replacements sit?On the bench, you guessed it.So, if you're getting texts inquiring whether 'you're up,' or if you only hear from someone every now and then, you may be benched.?
The trend has been deemed as the worst dating trend of 2023?
According to Steph Koyfman of language learning software Babbel, it's essentially the same as "stringing someone along," but with a horrible and decidedly "2023" dystopian frisson.?
Benching just leaves someone dangling by a thread before tugging them back whenever it is handy.?
So, perhaps it's time to recognise what's going on and avoid being benched.Is it time to go after the bencher?Maybe it's just time to chalk it all up to a poor job and learn to love yourself.?
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