7 Secrets Of Couples In Happy & Strong Relationships That We Can All Learn From

Being a happy couple takes serious work. And no, JUST love is not enough. While once in a while dinner dates, celebrating anniversaries or even Netflix binge watch sessions are all okay and must be a part of your relationship, it's the little things that you do for each other that set the foundation for securing a deep connection.

And couples who last and are happy, content and can proudly boast a strong relationship all have habits that keep their bond strong.

Lucky for you, I went around pestering and talking to a lot of happy couples to let me in on the habits that they follow to continuously raise the bar of #CoupleGoals. Below, we've curated a list of truths that will help you and your partner become closer than ever and make your relationship rise above the rest. Read away!

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1. Understand one thing: both partners in a relationship have their own faults.

In a strong and happy relationship, both partners are considered equal. Which implies, no one person in the relationship is better, more perfect or worse. When you can truly wrap your head around the fact that both of you are humans and humans make mistakes and have faults, you should be okay. Let them be free in your relationship to make mistakes (certainly not infidelity of any kind) and then learn from them and grow more.

2. They ask each other the same questions when they were getting to know each-other in the beginning.

Couples in long and happy relationships have one thing in common: they all know their respective partners are going to change, evolve and grow. Which means their interests, preferences, sometimes even perspectives alter from before. Keeping up with your partner and asking questions such as, "what is the one thing that you are passionate about" or "what dreams do you have for yourself, your parents and me?" This constantly reignite the magic in their relationship by getting to know one another over and over again.

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3. They aren't afraid to say what's on their mind.

Happy couples rarely self-edit themselves when around each-other. Partners in such relationships can say anything and share whatever is on their mind without the fear of judgement or betrayal. Sharing intimate details, an interesting observation from a movie or show, favourite quotes from a book or just articles that made you think. Even petty gossip or bitching. Partners in happy relationships speak anything and that's also what makes them great.

4. Sex matters.

Some people need to hear this so here we go: sex matters in your relationship. I'm not telling you to go crazy and have sex every chance you get (that can be very hot), but consistent and satisfying sex is paramount in a relationship. Don't believe me? Google this and see how many studies pop up that have found that the more sexually satisfied both partners are, the happier they are in the relationship.

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5. They look out for each-other like family.

One of the few habits of couples in strong relationships is that the partners consider one and other like family. They watch out for one another, defend one another and most importantly provide each-other with the same sense of belonging that only family and loved ones can foster. There¡¯s a very inherent kind of protectiveness you develop toward the people you care most about ¨C their well-being becomes akin to your own.

6. Fancy dates are not the only way to spend time.

Couples don't always dress up and go clubbing or on dinner dates. These couples are absolutely okay being together but working on their own laptops in a coffee shop. Or one partner can be reading and the other watching television. The goal is to find comfort in doing nothing and enjoying it as much or even more than dates that require SO much effort.

7. Happy couples don't discuss their relationship with friends or family.

Saving the best for the last- one habit of couples in strong and deep relationships is that they have stopped involving other people in their relationship. If anything goes wrong, these couples only have their partners to go too. Which I think is absolutely genius because this way you are keeping outsiders at bay and not allowing them to influence your opinions or get manipulated in any manner.