Learning from left swipes! Redditor shares key life lesson for young men on dating apps

One wouldn't typically associate dating apps with life lessons, but for a 28-year-old man, that's exactly where he found some valuable wisdom. Now, he's sharing this unexpected and intriguing piece of advice with everyone.

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In a recent Reddit post, a user shared a valuable life hack for young men, encouraging them to use dating apps as a tool for learning essential life lessons about handling rejection and failure for personal growth.

The user explained, "Life hack for all young guys here. Use online dating apps. Not for the matches or finding a girlfriend. Dating apps will teach you a very important life lesson: how to handle rejections and failure."

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The Redditor, a 28-year-old man, recounted his experience, starting as a naive 21-year-old fresh out of college and moving to Bengaluru for his first job.

With high expectations, he dove into the online dating scene, only to be hit hard by reality. "I don¡¯t think I got a match for at least a month," he shared.

Expecting a match rate of 10-20%, he was instead faced with a rate of 0.01% or less. Despite making excuses and adjustments, nothing changed.

Dejected and depressed, he uninstalled the apps, only to try again months later with the same results. This cycle continued for 2-3 years, but over time, he became more comfortable with his empty likes page.

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The individual emphasised the most important lesson he learned from using dating apps: "The most important thing I got out of using these apps is to get comfortable with the idea that people will reject you, even when you are best suited for the job. You should never take these rejections personally. People break up all the time. New opportunities are just a pull-to-refresh away."

He thus advises young men: "Hence, my advice to all young men out there: go use online dating apps, get rejected countless times, be depressed, and then learn how to cope with failures and rejection. Maybe it will help you later in life when you face more serious rejections or failures with more real-world consequences."

Check out his post here:

Life hack for all young guys here- Use online dating apps
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In the comments section, people shared their views.

One person said, "If you're born in India and are not as privileged, you're likely to know what rejection is and how to manage it from your early years. From being bullied in preteen years, to having parents living in financial anxiety, to moving on in life, living with caste-based dynamics, discrimination, and rejections, it's all there. Only the more privileged would use social media and dating apps to get their learnings from criticisms."

Another commented, "I think it's one of the worst pieces of advice I've seen on this platform. Substantial rejection is seen in professional or academic settings. This is more consequential and impactful in life than dating rejection. The nature of rejection in love life and other substantial domains is also different. So I don't understand what life skill is being earned."

Yet another said, "Bro, you said what I had in my mind. I wish more people would understand and acknowledge that it's a normal thing to get rejected. Also, to the people who compare rejection by a girl and getting rejected in an exam/university, they have a long way to go!"

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