IAS Officer With Two Daughters Shares Parenting Tips That May Be Useful For New Parents
An IAS officer named Divya Mittal shares positive parenting tips based on her childhood and her journey of raising two little daughters.
Being a parent is a tough job. You are not only raising the future visionaries of the country but you have to do it in a way that these young minds take the right path. However, is there a mantra for being the perfect parent? Well, one would never know that but an IAS officer is sharing tips on positive parenting.
This IAS officer named Divya Mittal has two little girls and she now is sharing some insights on parenting that she has learnt from her mother. She started off her series of tweets by telling everyone how her mother raised "3 kids- all 3 went to IIT, then IIM & doing well in their lives."
She then started with her tips. The first one she shared was that one needs to tell their kids that they can do anything. "Tell it so often that they start believing it. That belief will define their destiny."
Tell them they can do anything.
¡ª Divya Mittal (@divyamittal_IAS) August 23, 2022
Tell it so often that they start believing it. That belief will define their destiny
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Next, she asked parents to let their kids fall. She asked parents to let their kids jump and fall so that they can learn from their failures and rise up. "Let them jump and play and fall and get hurt. Don't jump in to pick them up. Only then will they learn to get up from a failure, dust themselves up and keep walking."
Her third mantra is to let children compete and participate in competitions just so that they get comfortable with failures. "Make them participate in competitions. They will not win every time. But they will become comfortable with failure. Fear of failure is a bigger hindrance in success than failure."
Compete
¡ª Divya Mittal (@divyamittal_IAS) August 23, 2022
Make them participate in competitions. They will not win every time. But they will become comfortable with failure. Fear of failure is a bigger hindrance in success than failure.
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The fifth point was that she asked parents to let their children take risks. "Monitor them but allow them to do things you feel can be somewhat risky. Adventure sports, climbing a tree. You will see that when they know they can get hurt in the process, they behave responsibly."
Next, she asked parents to let their children take advantage of newer opportunities and resources. "They have opportunities & resources that you never had. Let them use that as a jump board to go in the higher orbit. Don't impose your scarcity mindset on them."
Abundance mindset.
¡ª Divya Mittal (@divyamittal_IAS) August 23, 2022
They have opportunities & resources that you never had. Let them use that as a jump board to go in the higher orbit. Don't impose your scarcity mindset on them
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Next, she wanted parents to be role models to their children and also to shun bad behaviour. She says that the children look up to them so their behaviour and their attitude are what the kids will acquire.
Shun bad behaviour.
¡ª Divya Mittal (@divyamittal_IAS) August 23, 2022
You must scold them & correct them when they are doing something bad. They need to understand what right behaviour is
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Next, she wanted the children to trust her parents and she wanted the parents to give their children to give new experiences like taking them to the museum.
Give experiences.
¡ª Divya Mittal (@divyamittal_IAS) August 23, 2022
Give them a variety of experiences to open their minds and hearts. Take them to orphanages, dance shows, travel, museums. Wherever you go, talk to them about things and their experience. Don't just be busy amongst yourselves
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Last but not least she wanted all the parents to be in their children's safe space. "Where they get love without having to be anything. Tell them that you will always love them, even if you are angry with them. Your love is not conditional on any behaviour of theirs."
Most important:
¡ª Divya Mittal (@divyamittal_IAS) August 23, 2022
Be their safe place. Where they get love without having to be anything. Tell them that you will always love them, even if you are angry with them. Your love is not conditional on any behaviour of theirs.
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A definitive guide to being a great parent indeed.
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