If you have ever had a friend walk out of your life or suffer through the misery of a relationship ending, then, naturally, people around you, would have said one thing for sure, "It's their loss, not yours," and I'm delighted to tell you that for the first time these people are absolutely right.
We, as a society, are so mindlessly pre-occupied with the concept of forever, that we go to any length to keep someone in our life - even when they disrespect us and treat us in ways we don't deserve to be treated. It's high time we declare the idea of cherishing a person for all our breathing days, dead. If they want to leave, let them. And by letting them do that, you're only going to win. Here's how.
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It makes sense that we should lose some people in the course of our lifetime. It can even be positive for you. For instance, if someone decides to leave you because they feel you were dishonest, what's the point on holding onto them? You know deep down in your heart that you were honest. You believe you were real. You spoke your mind or heart out, and if this person doesn't believe you, why fight for them to stay? Even if you get them to stay, there will be this nagging doubt in their head about you. And if ever a scenario comes up again where a question is raised on your honesty, trust me, they won't believe you. So, let them go. By doing so, you'll be making space for someone who will take your word over anyone else's.?
On the flip side, if someone has betrayed or hurt you, let them go. Because the reality is that the hurt is too deep. The pain you will suffer is real and genuine. And healing can't happen when this person is around. Because a constant reminder of what caused you pain won't give way to recovery. And once you feel okay, forgive and never forget. Forgiveness is kindness and I will advise you to choose kindness.?
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If someone decides to leave you for someone else, let them go. You did what you felt was right when you liked them. You chose them every single day, considering there are a billion people in our country alone, you loved them in the way you wanted to be loved back. And IF they still choose to leave, you must let them. Because what's the point of holding onto someone who doesn't want to stay??
When someone who has only charmed you with words and kept you hanging with all the promises they have never fulfilled, and then they suddenly want to leave, please be wise and let them go. Genuinely start to be conscious or even wary of those people whose actions don't match with their words. If they really did love you and considered you valuable, why won't they be willing to keep their own word in order to have you in their life???
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It may sound brutal but we are all destined to watch some relationships- romantic or friendship, morph into something foreign. Something unrecognizable. Sometimes it's a violent end and sometimes it's a gradual disappearing. And that's life. But it should be comforting to know that all of this is okay; all of this will be okay.
It's easy to pass by life with starry eyes. It takes the brave to see life from a tight lens of practicality. That's why when someone who thinks you lied, left, they are did you a favor. If someone took you for granted, you got rid of someone who didn't value you. If someone picks someone over you, accept that and move on. Because it's their loss.? It's literally THE one cliche you must believe in.