Imagine your partner tells you they're throwing you a surprise birthday party and as you break into a smile they quickly add you'll have to clean the house and cook for the event yourself. Something of the sort happened to an anonymous Reddit user who took to the popular platform to share details of her terribly planned (not so) surprise birthday party. If there ever was a more terrible way of taking the joy out of someone's special day, this one definitely tops the list. Read on to find out what happened.
An anonymous woman with a throwaway account named?External-Top-6912 recently shared a post titled 'Aitah for wanting to divorce my husband over a birthday party and cake?' on the?r/AITAH sub Reddit. First, check out the post below:
Aitah for wanting to divorce my husband over a birthday party and cake?
byu/External-Top-6912 inAITAH
She only identified herself as 40 and female in the original post that she claims blew up overnight. In it, she edited what she had written earlier to respond to some burning comments in the comments section. But before that, we're going to analyse what she originally posted.
She started off by introducing her 41-year-old husband Sam whom she's been married to for 10 years. "We have four children (22,16,14 and 11) and up until the last few months, I genuinely thought that we could work through anything," she shared. And understandably so because 10 years together means you've been through thick and thin together and have come to appreciate each other's strengths. But for OP this event wasn't the only one over the years that cheesed her off but it was rather the final nail in the coffin that sent her over the edge.
Her husband Sam was planning to throw her a surprise party for her birthday and he was so excited he couldn't help but tell her. But that wasn't all. instead he "told me that I needed to help him clean the house to get it ready for my party. Yes, you read that right, I needed to prepare food and set the house for my own party."
Worried he would feel bad--because no surprise, she wanted to keep the peace--she agreed she would clean the house. But imagine her surprise when he ended up inviting mostly his friends and family. "He claimed that he didn't know how to contact them," she revealed.
But what was the straw that broke the camel's back? "He carried out a cake in a flavor that he loved, nothing that I would ever chose [sic] for myself. I barely managed to keep it in and cried in the bathroom after everyone left." What probably made it worse was when everyone complimented him for throwing a party.?
"I work two jobs,take care of the kids, do all of the meal planning, grocery shopping and most of the housework. I am exhausted and just wanted to feel appreciated for a day."
"AITA for considering divorce because I feel he doesn't care? I just can't imagine throwing away 10 years of marriage, but I feel broken," she wondered.
In the edit a few hours later she added, "The problems in our marriage are not new, but I struggle with standing up for myself when it comes to him. I did have one family member that attended the party and one friend. The friend was upset for me, and couldn't believe that he didn't try to ask her for help with planning."
She explained how things are good most of the time but the remaining "40 percent of the time I am unhappy."?
She further explained how her husband tends to overreact to the "little things" adding that it "makes me feel that I can't tell him how upset I am."?
Clearly deeply upset by now, she wrote, "I can't continue to live like this" and shared how she's contacting a marriage counsellor because she still loves her husband.?
Any veteran user knows just how popular the AITAH sub Reddit is. This is the page you're often hit with bizarre and downright confusing issues relating to marriages and relationships. Speaking of this particular post, the internet had a lot to say and here's some of the drama that went on below the post.
1. One user rightly pointed out how self-centred and selfish her husband was:
2. Another user asked her a question you've all been thinking so far: why not leave him?
3. Others gave her ideas to plan the perfect revenge...
?4. Then there was this perspective on what OP was worried would be her "throwing away 10 years of marriage."
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