11 Real Things You Need To Hear If You're Going Through A Breakup & Feel You Can't Move On

Ever had your heart broken? We all have been there and the toughest part comes once you try to move on from the heartbreak.

For many of us, a breakup means the end of life as you know it. At times, there is so much hurt that you end up feeling like there¡¯s no moving on.

You cry, demand closure and keep a tab on their life through social media but the truth is that when a relationship ends, it is best to accept it and concentrate on healing.

It is easier said than done but to encourage you to take a step in the right direction, here are all the things you need to hear right now. Just remember, moving on may seem impossible right now but with time it'll become easier.

1. It is alright if they¡¯ve moved on before you did.

While this is one of the most dreaded feelings in the world and it is not easy to see the person you love loving someone else, you have to realise that this is bound to happen and the only thing you can do is give yourself time to move on.

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2. There¡¯s no point stalking them on social media.

Doing this will only cause more emotional hurt and slow down the healing process as you feel bad about how happy their life on social media seems to be. It is advisable that you stay away from their social media profiles as long as you can.

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3. Learn to forgive because it is liberating.

Your ex might just be someone who doesn¡¯t value you and may be that was the reason for the breakup. But the thing you need to do is forgive them. When you forgive them, you will let go of your feelings for them and feel an emotional burden lifting off you.

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4. Going on a hookup spree is not the thing that helps.

While there is nothing bad about hooking up after you¡¯ve broken up with someone, it is important that you don¡¯t do it because you feel the need to rush the moving on process or think that this will help you move on in any way. It could, on the other hand, leave you with things that you might regret.

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5. It is alright to ask friends for support.

Your breakup has happened at a time when you need your friends the most. Don¡¯t feel shy or embarrassed about having to text friends when you¡¯re feeling low. Make it a point to meet them for coffee even if it means venting out the frustrating emotions and reaching out for help.

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6. Join a hobby you¡¯ve been wanting to try out for sometime.

Being single will leave you with a lot of time on your hands. This means that you can finally enroll yourself for a course that you¡¯ve always wanted to know more about. From dancing to painting to pottery, there¡¯s enough offbeat courses that will help you divert your mind while also learning a new skill.

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7. You will miss them but that doesn¡¯t mean you need to contact them.

After having spent so many special moments together, you're bound to miss them. However, getting back in touch will only cause confusion in terms of feelings and keep you away from healing.

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8. Don¡¯t waste time over someone who isn¡¯t giving you any time.

Not just attempts to meet or talk but also thinking so much about someone who doesn¡¯t care about you is pointless. Choose to make efforts for people who value you instead of wasting your energy on people who take you for granted.

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9. Don't hold on to a person who doesn¡¯t even want to be there.

Wasting your energy, effort and emotions who doesn¡¯t want to be with you will only lead you to feeling drained. Acknowledge and accept as well as respect the decision of the other person and take the first step to moving on.

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10. It is absolutely fine if you¡¯re taking more time than intended to move on. Everyone has their own timeline.

It is easy to start feeling like you¡¯re the only one stuck as you see other singles move on from past relationships and find their soulmates but everyone has their own timeline when it comes to moving on.

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11. You will heal one day.

Yes, it can feel like you will never be whole again and especially so when you¡¯ve been trying to move on for a long time. But there will definitely come a day when you look back and find that you¡¯ve healed and can look back at the past without hurt.

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