'Elder Daughter Syndrome': Woman Sparks Conversation On Struggles Of Being The Eldest Daughter
A Twitter user who goes by the handle 'Deity' took to Twitter to share her thoughts on being an 'elder sibling.' In a series of tweets, she opened up about her experience as the 'eldest daughter' and how it often makes her feel responsible for "taking care of everyone and everything."
Birth order can shape a person's life in numerous ways, and each position comes with its own set of joys, challenges, and peculiarities. But the stakes are even higher regarding being the oldest daughter.
A woman's tweets have recently brought attention to the frequently disregarded challenges that come with being the eldest daughter in a family.
Her honest reflections on the topic went viral on Twitter and resonated with many others who could relate to the pressures of being the firstborn and the expectations that come with it.
Not only does she bear the weight of being the firstborn, but she's also expected to take on the role of caregiver for her younger siblings and, eventually, her aging parents.
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It's a lot of pressure, but with great responsibility comes great opportunity for growth and leadership.
A Twitter user who goes by the handle 'Deity' took to Twitter to share her thoughts on being an 'elder sibling.'
In a series of tweets, she opened up about her experience as the 'eldest daughter' and how it often makes her feel responsible for "taking care of everyone and everything."
Her candid and relatable insights struck a chord with many users who could relate to the pressure of being the firstborn and the expectations that come with it.
As the eldest daughter I feel like it is my responsibility to take care of everyone and everything. From making everyone at home eat their meals, making tea and snacks for guests, handling every crisis with a calm mind, taking care of everyone¡¯s emotions, understanding everyone,
¡ª Deity (@gharkakabutar) April 18, 2023
Helping out at home and at the office, knowing everyone¡¯s likes and dislikes, taking care of their allergies, guiding my siblings in the right direction, being good at academics, handling all the accounts, maintaining family relations,
¡ª Deity (@gharkakabutar) April 18, 2023
Smiling all the time even though you are worried or tensed or sad, disregarding your health to take care of others, always saying yes to everything, making sure you don¡¯t even accidentally hurt anyone, apologise even if it¡¯s not your fault, blame yourself for everything,
¡ª Deity (@gharkakabutar) April 18, 2023
And so much more!! I have to be the happiest person at home so that I can make everyone around me happy! I have to make sure everything is perfect! And if something goes wrong, it feels like it is all because of me. It¡¯s the worst.
¡ª Deity (@gharkakabutar) April 18, 2023
She wrote, "From making everyone at home eat their meals, making tea and snacks for guests, handling every crisis with a calm mind, taking care of everyone¡¯s emotions, understanding everyone, helping out at home and the office, knowing everyone¡¯s likes and dislikes, taking care of their allergies, guiding my siblings in the right direction, being good at academics, handling all the accounts, maintaining family relations."
In a remarkable Twitter thread, 'Deity' shared another aspect of her experience as the 'eldest daughter.'
She revealed that she feels compelled to be the "happiest person at home to make everyone around her happy." Her heartfelt admission struck a chord with countless users, sparking a heated discussion online.
Many people empathized with her and shared their struggles.
One user confessed, "No matter who is fighting with whom in the house, you have to stay strong and get both of them a glass of water to drink and listen to both sides and calm them down."
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Another user highlighted how elder siblings are the pillars of support for their younger siblings. "Having an elder sibling is a blessing," they wrote. "They scold a lot sometimes, actually most of the time, but they care a lot."
Others showered praise on 'Deity' for her selflessness and strength of character. You're doing a fantastic job," wrote one person.
You see there by "taking care of everyone¡¯s emotions, understanding everyone" ? https://t.co/HGkyb7IhZT
¡ª Zion ? (@TheLeratoBelow) April 20, 2023
yes this is me but i am happy and will do a lot for them https://t.co/Ccw2MuZvLt
¡ª ? (@3megalomania3) April 19, 2023
why's no one wishing me on mother's day? https://t.co/IWI6Ng4J4U
¡ª Nivi (@nivitataa) April 20, 2023
As the eldest daughter too ,I can relate ? https://t.co/4B7oSuboIF
¡ª HEERAH? Ft AVANTT (@EclipseOfTheRa1) April 20, 2023
Not me constantly asking my drunk friends if they're ok and having fun. ?NOT TO MENTION THE URGE THAT I HAVE TO ENTERTAIN PEOPLE WHO AREN'T MY GUESTS TO BEGIN WITH. https://t.co/tuiidePRRL
¡ª Nathania Byanzei Llanera (@thaniallanera) April 20, 2023
Hits deep. You feel responsible for your entire family and their well-being and pls incsnt explain the stress that comes with it. https://t.co/RT3z8fjRWl
¡ª ramona flowers ? (@aziza_writes) April 20, 2023
may i correct that to as the only daughter https://t.co/uSjPMC35Nn
¡ª ? astronaut on duty ? (@softcakesforjin) April 20, 2023
"All of this will return to you in unimaginable ways. You've aligned amazing things in life; wait till you have that fruit. Also, this thread is so empowering and hot simultaneously, mad respect for the women who take charge and still."
The discourse surrounding this tweet highlights the significant influence of birth order within families and sheds light on the critical responsibility that eldest daughters often carry within their homes.
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