It May Seem Impossible But These 9 Things Will Help You Get Over The Most Painful Break Up

Ever had your heart broken to the extent where you thought you could never move on? Well, we've all been through it at some point in life and some of us are probably in that phase right now.

Break-ups are tough because you build a life with someone and then, one find day, things change. It feels like a void that nothing can fill, doesn't it? You know that it is in your best interest to move on but you also find yourself going back to the past memories and, this, breaks your heart all over again. Weeks, months and, at times, even years go by and you feel like the whole world has moved on while you're where you started.

But you've got to make that effort for yourself. Here are nine things you need to start doing to start with the moving on process:

1. The most important part is to keep hurtful thoughts about the break-up away and hence, distracting yourself is very important.

Being alone with your thoughts to understand yourself is important but if you find yourself going back to the toxic thoughts about your ex, it is highly important to distract yourself. Go out with friends, watch an interesting movie at home, try cooking with new recipes or anything that will keep you from thinking about your past relationship.

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2. Do new things and work on your personal growth.

Enroll yourself for a new hobby. It could be dance, painting, cooking, slam poetry or anything at all that you've always wanted to do. With your relationship not existing anymore, a new hobby will help you get in touch with your individual self. Moreover, joining a new hobby will help you meet new people and make new memories without your ex in the picture.

3. Do not contact your ex too regularly.

However your relationship ended, just make sure you keep your self-respect intact and don't contact your ex too often. Asking them to meet you is also a big no-no. The idea is to keep yourself away from this person who became an integral part of your life. You need to move away from your previous life and since your ex was a huge part of it, you'd have to move away from them as well.

4. Talk about your feelings with your close friends.

It is extremely important for you to vent out your emotions. Keeping them all inside yourself with affect your mental health and won't give you a chance to let go of the hurt to welcome positive feelings. Talk to your best friends without any fear of judgement because you need to. The best part about this is that they'll suggest solutions to your problems and help you through the moving on process.??

5. You don't have to resume your dating life until you're absolutely ready.

Don't push yourself to feel something you're not ready for. You don't have to get back into the dating game just yet and you should not hook-up with someone till you're absolutely ready. Pushing yourself to do something you're not prepared for is only going to make you feel more emotionally devastated and guilty which are emotions you need to stay away from.

6. Realize that this break-up isn't the end of the world.

It may seem like your world is collapsing because such a huge part of your life has gone away. But realize that this isn't the worst thing to happen to you. You will fall in love again and find happiness.

7. Cry your heart out when you need to.

Don't be afraid to stay in touch with your emotions and allow yourself to feel hurt. This will help you to grieve and once you're done grieving, you will finally allow yourself to feel happy again.

8. Don't stalk your ex's social media because it might be hurtful to you.

While it is easy to stalk your ex on social media and see what they're up to, understand that it may be an extremely hurtful thing for you. You might come across them going on dates or looking extremely happy without you. Doing something like this will only make moving on tougher for you and you don't want that.

9. Learn to put yourself first.