Being a woman in India is hard. Not because of everyday sexism and threat to security, but because of the traditional roots of this country. It all gets even harder once a woman marries, especially if it's into a joint family.?
A recent post by a married woman has strung similar chords for many women across India.?
A Twitter user named Neeru Nagaranjan shared how the smallest of things in her life were controlled by her husband or in-laws from her first marriage. She added that meeting her parents was a big task because every time she was expected to seek permission from her husband or in-laws.?
In her post, she wrote:?Sometimes I think about my previous marriage and the smallest things that used to give me anxiety. "My cousin's visiting the US, can I go meet her?" "A family member's getting married, would you come to the wedding?" Everything involved ego-stroking, begging and pleading.
Then she added how?Indian men and their families like to make all these tiny things a matter of pride. Stating that there is nothing to be proud of than controlling someone or stressing them out. '
The post got a lot of reactions from Indian women who agreed with the sentiment. Many shared how their in-laws controlled them and how asking for anything made them sleepless. One user wrote: "Tell me about it. It used to take me two days and sleepless nights to get the courage to ask MIL if I could visit my family. Now I look back and think why did I do that but I was very young at the time. Now I am an angry auntyjee so nobody dares say anything."
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Saddening, to say the least.
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