There have been several debates on who should pay on the first dates. But a Toronto-based divorce lawyer thinks that men should be the ones always paying on the first date. His reason however is not what you think it is.?
Justin Lee said, "The issue isn't tied to the number of dollars that we're spending at the end of the date; if it is, respectfully, you need to go get a job." According to him, it is what it signifies.?
He mentioned how paying on the first date might tell much more about your potential partner.?
He added, "The issue is when we end up paying for someone who has this real sense of entitlement, like this expectation that we will pay. That's precisely why we need to always pay."Your date, whoever that is, may very well be the person you end up marrying. And trust me when I say, as a divorce lawyer, who you end up marrying is so, so important."
"Let's say, at the end of the date, you pull out your wallet and you offer to pay. And your date just sits there, expecting you to pay, as if that is the obvious course of action."??
This action according to him means that your date is entitled. He thought that it is weird that the woman expects a near stranger to pay for her meal.?
"For a low, low price of $20, $30, $40, you learned that the person in front of you does not have the basic courtesy to pretend to offer to pay. And therefore you should never go on another date with them."
His suggestion however sparked quite a debate. While some thought what he said made sense, others thought the complete opposite.?
One user said: "I agree 100 per cent. It's the entitlement that is such a turn-off."Another jumped in: "Nah guys should pay on the first date. I'm old school."
"You should always pay because it tells us you're going to be a good provider," put a third.Another added: "I expect my spouse to take care of me. I won't pretend anything."
After reading the comments, Lee mentioned that it isn't about who pays, it is about respecting the gesture.?
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