AR Rahman separation: Are celeb marriages the new fairytale gone wrong? Psychiatrists list reasons behind rise in divorce cases

The separation announcement of the legendary music composer AR Rahman and his wife Saira Banu has blown the internet. From netizens on X (formerly called Twitter) to the Instagram fam, everyone can¡¯t stop talking about it. Nearly after three decades of marriage, the couple decided to end the relationship, and the decision was not easy to make.

AR Rahman pens an emotional message for fans

In an emotional post on X Rahman expressed that he was expecting a 'grand thirty'. He wrote,

¡°We had hoped to reach the grand thirty, but all things, it seems, carry an unseen end. Even the throne of God might tremble at the weight of broken hearts. Yet, in this shattering, we seek meaning, though the pieces may not find their place again. To our friends, thank you for your kindness and for respecting our privacy as we walk through this fragile chapter.¡±

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¡°We had hoped to reach the grand thirty, but all things, it seems, carry an unseen end. Even the throne of God might tremble at the weight of broken hearts. Yet, in this shattering, we seek meaning, though the pieces may not find their place again. To our friends, thank you for¡­

¡ª A.R.Rahman (@arrahman) November 19, 2024

AR Rahman's divorce has once again brought the celebrity world and their relationships under scanner. As shocking as it may sound, the reality is that most celebrity couples, from Hrithik Roshan and Sussane Khan to Samantha Ruth Prabhu and Naga Chaitanya, announced their separation after almost spending forever together.

High-profile separations¡ªHas the idea of marriage lost its spark?

When we discuss marriage, we often see it through the lens of idealism, romanticising the notion of eternal love and commitment. Yet, the rising cases of separation¡ªespecially among the celebrities, whom we often look up to¡ªraises questions about the true idea of marriage.

Are these high-profile separations forcing us to reconsider whether the concept of marriage is enduring enough or not?

Why do long-term marriages fail?

In India, the divorce rate has risen steadily in recent years. Dr. Sanjay Chugh, Senior Consultant Neuro-Psychiatrist based in Delhi, says, ¡°Most of the time, couples get bored of each other in long-term marriages. They start living a monotonous and repetitive life. This monotony and boredom trigger the thought of getting out of the marriage.¡±

¡°In a long-term marriage, people start taking each other for granted, and usually, the onus is put on the other person to rectify things. They rarely introspect to see what went wrong in their relationship. The longer the relationship, the higher the stress,¡± adds Dr Chug.

Toxic relationships are the major driving force behind various issues between a couple. According to Dr. Sonal Anand, psychiatrist at Wockhardt Hospitals Mira Road, ¡°The factors or reasons could be multiple, including a lack of communication, too much control or restriction, manipulation, disrespect, unrealistic expectations, and emotional dependency.¡±

5 mental tips to manage toxic relationships

Poor communication between couples is one of the most common factors that leads to misunderstandings, flights, and frustrations. ¡°This can be actively managed by making simple changes in a relationship; this may include expressing thoughts or feelings without getting hyper and keeping the temper in control,¡± says Dr. Anand.

Controlling and manipulative behaviour by one of the partners can be overwhelming and stressful, which makes you feel suffocated.

Set boundaries: It becomes very important to set boundaries and take a stand for yourself whenever needed.

Respect each other: A relationship without respect is nothing! Try to be respectful irrespective of their tone or language; it can feel more like a liability than a relationship.

Address the issue: Individuals should address this issue firmly without any hesitation. When the relationship is filled with unrealistic expectations, it can create imbalance or extreme pressure.

Aim for realistic expectations: Focus on building a relationship based on fair and realistic expectations while openly vocalising your needs to maintain a healthy balance.

Prioritise your mental health: Remember, always prioritise your mental health first. If the relationship still seems toxic even after continuous efforts, then do not hesitate to take a break or get out of it, as it can take a heavy toll on your mental health if neglected.
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