Woman's list of things she won't do for husband goes viral: 'Not his mom'

How many people feel their partners don't come through when it comes to helping around the house or basically splitting the chores and duties 50/50? While you might not want to answer that here, there is one woman who shared an exhaustive list of things she won't be doing for her husband, adding that she's "not his mom." The video stirred quite the debate online clearly diving the internet into two clear camps. Here's what went on.

What did the woman say in the video?

Paige said she refused to take on more than her "fair share" of things | Image: Daily Mail

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A seemingly tired mum and wife from the U.S., Paige Turner sat down one evening and made a TikTok that managed to divide the internet, clean and right down the middle. In the now-viral clip, Paige said she refused to take on more than her "fair share" of things making it clear that she was "not his mom." That was until one person hit back with the comment: "What you're saying is never do any acts of kindness for your partner if you're in a healthy relationship your man should be doing these things with you/for you and not expecting it from u."

Turner was quick to clarify: "Small acts of kindness, which are mostly domestic labour, mostly just add up to work at the end of the day."

How did it start?

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The video opens with her talking about the 'L' word: laundry. "I don¡¯t do his laundry," she said. "He can do that himself. I do my laundry, and we do the kid¡¯s laundry. He does his own."

She did explain though that he cooks dinner every night while she cooks breakfast and lunch for the kids. "If he¡¯s hungry, he¡¯ll figure out what he¡¯s gonna eat for lunch the same way that I do," she added.

The point she was trying to make was he was a "grown man" and not a baby meant to be looked after first his mom and then his wife. ¡°"I don¡¯t make his doctor¡¯s appointments. I want him to be healthy but he¡¯s a grown a** man, he can book his own appointments." Her list of things she doesn't do for her husband went on, and she explained she doesn't pack his clothes for vacation, buy him new underwear, or book his haircuts.

For any tired mum and wife, the woman's rant makes absolute sense, from start to end. A partner is about doing things together and working like a team. But how often do we see the woman getting the lion's share of house chores and anything related to the kids' wellbeing? It's all too common in India and not unheard of outside either.

"I am not my husband¡¯s personal secretary or his personal assistant, I am none of those things. I am his partner, I am his equal and I do not have to do things to cater to him and serve him at all times."

But no one gets to judge her yet because the chores are one thing, and "small acts of kindness" another. "If I see a vinyl that I think he¡¯s gonna like, I buy it. I¡¯m at the store and I see something that I think he might enjoy eating, I buy it," she quips. "But when it comes to chores, these are not acts of kindness."

And there was Reddit...

But because it's the internet, it has people who will be triggered no matter what you do. Like this interesting sub Reddit fighting for the "rights of men."

"TikToker shocks with 'wild' list of things she refuses to do for her husband: 'Not his mum' [Just listening to her voice I feel sorry for the guy, she sounds like a nightmare to share a home with]," wrote the person in the caption while sharing the story.

"I expected nothing from women and I'm still disappointed," wrote one. "I'm just at a loss. Here we have a woman posting a TikTok of what's supposed to be asshole behavior: exercising at 5:30pm when you have children. Women in the comments are shouting about how right she is, and how men are so selfish. When another woman chimes in saying she goes to yoga at 6pm? Everyone showers her with support because apparently it's OK when it's a mother who does it. Women hold men to different standards than they hold themselves and they're so oblivious to it that it's almost comical."

Another triggered bloke chimed in with: "Not his mom" yet I'm guessing she expects him to pay for everything, defend her, take care of the household, etc. Yanno just like her dad."

"She's everything that's wrong with today's relationships. Loud, entitled, nagging, and controlling."

What's interesting here is while everyone is entitled to their opinion, being able to separate logic and fact from all the noise shows true intelligence. One camp could resonate with what Paige said, but the other was sent into a meltdown simply over the fact that women want men to help out around the house and not expect to be treated like babies. What are your thoughts on this? Hit us up in the comments section and let us know.

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Video courtesy: Daily Mail

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